Cynthia J. Welborn
“With all humility and gentleness with patience bearing with one another in love. Eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” – Ephesians 4:2-3
I decided that I should start off writing a mini series about the three keys to a happy marriage. The three topics are going to be humility, gentleness, and patience. The first post is going to be on humility which is one everyone at some point has had a problem with at one point in their relationship.
“When pride comes then comes disgrace but with the humble is wisdom.” -Proverbs 11:2
I want you to think about what humility means to you. In the Bible humility is said to be a genuine gratitude, a lack of arrogance, and a modest view of one’s self. There are several ways you can show humility in your marriage such as admitting when you are wrong, asking for help even when you think you can handle it on your own, and some self sacrificing.
Admitting you have a problem is difficult. It’s like, “Hi I’m Cynthia, and I have an Ego…” Hi Cynthia! Because, saying you need a piece of the humble pie isn’t easy, and actually eating it is even worse. You put the fork to your tongue and gag a little, telling yourself to stay humble even though it is a little self-contradictory. Or maybe not.
Another really hard lesson to learn in any relationship and marriage is asking for help; whether it is physically, mentally, or emotionally. I am married to a man who had to admit that he needed help with his depression. I felt helpless watching him fighting this battle not knowing how I could help him. As someone who has been on the spectator side of this situation if you do not ask for help, and tell us how we can help we are just as helpless as you.
The third and final thing is a little bit of self sacrificing. This is a big one, and can make or break a marriage. Marriage is a little give and take. You have to be willing to give just as much as you are willing to take. It has to be even if you hope to have a peaceful happy marriage.
I hope you have learned something you can take into your own relationship and marriage. I know some of you may be thinking she has not been married even two years how can she know about making a marriage last. I have excellent examples in my parents who have been married for 28 years. My next blog is going to be on gentleness, and will be posted next week.
Soli Deo Gloria!
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